cover_secretsSecrets of a Strong Mind:

A former FBI counter-espionage agent offers field-tested methods for readers to develop mental toughness. She provides a curated package of tools and techniques to help them realize they are capable of far more than they believe to be possible.

A former FBI counter-espionage agent offers field-tested methods for readers to develop mental toughness. She provides a curated package of tools and techniques to help them realize they are capable of far more than they believe to be possible.

In this revised and updated edition of Secrets of a Strong Mind, LaRae Quy combines FBI training with no-nonsense real-talk on how you can develop your maximum potential.

It’s not obstacles that hold you back, it’s your attitude about both them and yourself. Many people feel overwhelmed. Secrets of a Strong Mind is a timely slap in the face to remind us that grit and mental toughness are needed to stick to our values so we can face our challenges and live a more successful life.

The powerful principles in this book will help you forge an unbeatable attitude, formulate action plans, and develop the tenacity to succeed in both your personal and professional lives.

With real-life stories, practical exercises, and inspiring tactics, Secrets of a Strong Mind teaches the skills needed to survive and take full advantage of life. LaRae provides the tools for excavating the significance of our own stories and memories to help us uncover the unknown about ourselves. This discovery will be a new strength. The learning process will not fatigue us; instead, it will invigorate us. This enables us to keep our eyes on the goals and not on the obstacles.

Secrets of a Strong Mind will empower the leader in you to live with the mental toughness needed to overcome life’s obstacles and achieve your goals. It is an ideal book for discussion groups, church groups, and corporate off-sites.

Kirkus Review

“If we hope to overcome adversity and plow through roadblocks,” writes Quy in this second edition of her book, “we can’t get distracted by external noise, especially if those noises are our own voices who tell us we can’t perform or win.” This outlook—that chief among the problems readers may need to overcome in their lives will be those of their own making—runs throughout the manual, which deals with many aspects of what earlier generations referred to as character building. On subjects ranging from dealing with fear to listening to one’s inner critic to examining the tenets of a modern-day version of Stoicism, the author dispenses no-nonsense advice about internal and external hurdles readers may face. Quy draws on her personal experience as an FBI counterintelligence agent and a wide array of life encounters in order to break down problems and give some pointers. Some of those pointers will perhaps be blunter than many readers are expecting. Sentiments like “If you cry like a baby every time you fail at something, you’re a wimp” abound in these pages. The author is intolerant of the approaches of some self-help books, warning her readers in plain terms. “Forget all the pseudo-psychology that exhorts you to mimic the traits and behaviors of people more confident and successful than yourself,” she asserts at one point, “that does nothing but exacerbate the problem because real confidence must come from within.” Quy’s approach is a winning one because its directness helps convey the feeling of a tough-love friend dispensing advice rather than a disinterested lecturer speaking about general principles. Throughout her book, the author steadfastly holds her readers to a high standard of accountability, and this is bound to make her counsel all the more bracing. A useful, highly readable, and euphemism-free manual on overcoming obstacles.”

Stewart Noyce Review

In ‘Secrets of a Strong Mind,’ retired FBI counterintelligence agent LaRae Quy inspires and guides her readers to live a principled, powerful life. In summary, talent alone does not make a person great. One must also be authentic, courageous, resilient, determined, and more.

With dramatic stories and practical tips, LaRae Quy takes us along on her journey. She sets an audacious goal for herself, FBI counterintelligence agent, and realizes that she can only reach it through persistent self improvement. This is a story not just of willpower and determination, but also one of heart and introspection.

Buy this book for the compelling stories of this women’s adventurous life.

Tracy B. Review
LaRae Quy’s ‘SECRETS OF A STRONG MIND,’ is the best ‘improve yourself’ book I’ve read in the past year. Not only was the supporting material (Quy’s personal stories) interesting, the recommendations and exercises (Tactics) provided in each chapter were valuable.

There are some universal ideas/recommendations that Quy discusses and some you might have read in other books by other authors. (Of course!) But Quy’s thoughtful, no-nonsense yet authentic style will speak directly to those looking for an author who does not sugarcoat the challenging, or steamroll you with the “cold, hard truth.” She is no “fluffy bunny,” but she is not a “self-improvement know-it-all” either.

For me, Quy is an author with unique experiences and abilities who has learned valuable lessons and techniques that she would like to share with other unique individuals. I highly recommend this book to readers who want to affect real change in their lives – and not just read about making changes.



new_coverMental Toughness for Women Leaders:
52 Tips To Recognize and Utilize Your Greatest Strengths

Whether the goal is advancing your career, getting your voice heard, or balancing the demands of work and home, this book will show you how mentally strong women manage their emotions and behaviors in ways that set them up for success in life.

Mental Toughness for Women Leaders: 52 Tips To Recognize and Utilize Your Greatest Strengths empowers women to grow as leaders so they can break down obstacles, make crucial decisions, and find ways to move forward when conditions are not perfect.

Most references to mental toughness imply we bulldoze our way through roadblocks that threaten to derail career goals. But mental toughness has little to do with physical strength or aggressive behavior; instead, it is understanding how to control the way your mind thinks. In Mental Toughness for Women Leaders, former FBI undercover and counterintelligence agent LaRae Quy shares how she created a strong mind by overcoming obstacles she encountered while at the FBI Academy, working in a male-dominated environment, and recruiting foreign spies to work for the U.S. Government.

As an FBI agent, LaRae believes that while theory is nice, evidence is better when you are serious about looking for ways to achieve goals in life. She relies upon science-based research and real life experiences as she explains how you can clarify your goals, take practical steps to make them happen. and connect with your ultimate purpose.

Specifically, you will learn:

Use Emotional Intelligence

  • Why mental toughness requires emotional fitness
  • How women leaders can kick butt
  • The art of getting what you want

Bullet Proof Your Brain

  • Develop the brain of a leader
  • Upgrade your brain
  • Yes is the most dangerous word in the world

Find Your Inner Warrior

  • How to stay cool under pressure
  • Ways to grow stronger from turmoil in your life
  • How to move forward when you feel overwhelmed

Predict Your Success

  • Move toward peak performance
  • How to beat the odds
  • How to better juggle work and life

If you are looking to reach your full potential, Mental Toughness for Women Leaders will show you how to use mental toughness to be the leader you always knew you could be—in business or life.

Nicole Flatt Review
I have been following LaRae Quy’s teachings on mental toughness because I want my leadership skills to advance to the next level and prepare myself to make decisions in high stress situations.
Jon Mertz Review
Read Cover-to-Cover then Practice a Tip a Week – Strength Engaged!

Developing mental strength is valuable no matter your gender and LaRae delivers keen insights and practical ways to be mindful, present, and thoughtfully engaging in our everyday leadership. The structure of the book is excellent, highlighting a key principle and then delivering key tips on how to lead and live by these principles. In other words, LaRae offers steps to turn words and thoughts into actions… an essential practice for any growth-minded leaders.

My advice is to read this book cover-to-cover to grasp the ideas and practices to gain mental strength and then start each week with one of the tips, putting it into full practice and learning from what is experienced. What will happen through the time is you will become a more self-aware leader who is engaging others to take performance to new levels of achievement. Now that is strength!

Mareo McCracken Review
This book outlined so many of the obstacles that leaders face and then provided clear, research backed ways to overcome them. The lessons were highlighted with personal stories that helps us envision the possibility of overcoming the challenges ourselves.

Great book … not just for women!



Think Like a Spy Audio

Imagine having three life-coaches who had been through the toughest mental and physical challenges; a crack team of problem-solvers who knew in their day job that one mistake could be the difference between life – and death.

Think Like a Spy brings together ex-officers from the CIA, the FBI and the British Royal Marines. Across eight themed half-hours, they recount their experiences of working in the most stressful situations around the world – and how you can apply the same intelligence techniques to your own everyday life to become more productive, more perceptive and confident.

A TBI Media production for Audible Originals.

This is an Audible Original Podcast. Free for members. You can download all 8 episodes to your Library now.

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