LaRae Quy was an undercover and counterintelligence FBI agent for 24 years. She exposed foreign spies and recruited them to work for the U.S. Government. As an FBI agent, she developed the mental toughness to survive in environments of risk, uncertainty, and deception. Faced with stressful and fast-moving situations, she needed to move through barriers if she was to succeed.

Secrets of a Strong Mind Online Course
Based on real-life experiences and backed up with psychology and neuroscience, Secrets of a Strong Mind online course is 8 short modules of 5-minute videos.
It will help you to develop the mental resilience to overcome any challenge with confidence.

Are You Mentally Tough?
Mental toughness is believing you will prevail in your circumstances rather than believing your circumstances will change. It’s managing your emotions, thoughts, and behavior in ways that set you up for success in both business and life. Get your Mental Toughness Score – see where you excel and what areas need attention.

Secrets of a Strong Mind: How to Build Inner Strength to Overcome Life's Obstacles
A former FBI counter-espionage agent offers field-tested methods for readers to develop mental toughness. She provides a curated package of tools and techniques to help them realize they are capable of far more than they believe to be possible.

Mental Toughness for Women Leaders: 52 Tips To Recognize and Utilize Your Greatest Strengths
Purpose
When people have no direction in their life, it’s usually because they either don’t know what their values are, or they have crappy ones. If you don’t know what your values are, you’ll adopt ones held by other people and then try to pretend they’re your own. You end up living a pathetic imitation of someone else because you have no clue of your “why.”
Why You Need Mental Toughness
Grit Under Pressure
Grit is an intrinsic desire to go beyond what you can easily accomplish with talent or skill.
Grit Under Pressure
- A deep sense of purpose because you believe your work is worth it.
- Purpose boils down to understanding how you can give your talents and skills back to the world.
- Motivation to go beyond what you can easily achieve with talent.
- Success is often where people stop on their way to being who they truly want to be.
- Conditions don’t have to be perfect to start if you pursue something that answers your “why” and is important to you.
- Great lives respond to a higher calling and purpose.
- Purpose is the linchpin of grit.
The Right Mindset
Mental toughness is not something you’re born with, it’s a mindset you can develop.
The Right Mindset
- Attitude is the difference between a mentally tough champion and a whiny wimp.
- Negative emotions make us uncomfortable but without discomfort, there is no change and no growth.
- It’s not a lack of fear that creates a strong mind; it’s how we deal with negative fear-based emotions.
- The greatest mental toughness weapon we have is our ability to choose one thought over another.
- Mental toughness requires positive thinking. Positive people know they will prevail in their circumstances rather than hope their circumstances will change.
When Life Sucks
Mental toughness gives you the ability to be comfortable with discomfort while producing inner confidence.
When Life Sucks
- Stability is a shut-off valve for the brain. You only learn when there’s uncertainty.
- Petri dishes full of new experiences will help you anticipate what it feels like to fail so you can respond and not react when the stakes are higher.
- Left in darkness, fear will grow and sabotage your efforts to move forward.
- The only difference between a rut and a coffin is their dimensions.
- Wisdom is understanding that we’re not sure we have all the right answers.
- Success won’t make you confident; confidence will make you successful.
- Shit Happens. Life is hard. Pain is inevitable. Growth is optional.
LaRae’s Recent Posts

4 Secrets Of A Strong Mind
So what does make a good leader, athlete, or parent? The answer is a strong mind that pushes through adversity. It is an inner quality that enables people to work hard and stick to their goals.

4 Ways To Erase Painful Memories From Your Mind
There are many painful memories that we replay in our mind: conversations with our boss, disagreements with colleagues, arguments with partners and spouses

4 Science-Based Ways To Develop A Strong Mind
To develop a strong mind, we have to switch gears to consciously move out of the reactive limbic system and into the thinking cerebral brain. When we face adversity and obstacles, it’s vital for the two parts of our brain to work together so the best decisions can be made.

Why Mental Toughness Gives You A Competitive Advantage
Research and common sense tell us that top athletes have a competitive advantage because of their physical talents and dedication to training. However, they also succeed because of their ability to deal with the psychological pressures of their sport.

6 Ways To Get Through Adversity
Anything worthwhile will require us to learn how to get through adversity. All of us will experience roadblocks in our careers, relationships, finances, and health at some point in our life.

7 FBI Traits That Will Make You A Better Leader
If the goal of leadership is to empower people to make their own decisions, then here are 7 FBI traits that will make you a better leader.

6 Ways To Become A Charismatic Leader
Many people confuse charisma with likability and while likable people can be persuasive, charismatic leaders have thoughtfully fine-tuned their public image into one where they are seen to be advancing the interests of the group they are representing.

5 Tips From The Stoics On How To Develop Mental Toughness
Stoic philosophy focuses on how to develop the mental toughness to manage negative emotions such as anger, grief, anxiety, and fear.

6 Things Confident Women Never Do
Confident women never miss an opportunity to flex their confidence muscle during their day in the world. They know their thoughts have the ability to make a valuable and impactful contribution to other people.

5 Things Positive People Never Do
Positive people rely on their grit and determination to make the most of a bad situation because sometimes, shit happens.
Are YOU Mentally Tough?
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Mental toughness is believing you will prevail in your circumstances rather than believing your circumstances will change. Find your Mental Toughness score - see where you excel and what areas need attention.