by Larae Quy | Jun 15, 2020 | Anxiety, Mental toughness, personal achievement, personal leadership, Positive Mindset, Psychology, self-awareness
This is not a time for us to panic. The media does that for us. Nor is it a time for blind optimism, either. That’s what Instagram is for. Somewhere in between is where normal people live. For folks like you and me, it’s a time for tough-love because it does no good...
by Larae Quy | Jun 12, 2020 | Mental toughness, personal achievement, personal leadership, Positive Mindset, Psychology
We’ve all started over in a different environment, lost a job, or had a relationship fail. We grapple for a lifeline as we struggle to overcome these setbacks. We feel the tug of war between a cerebral brain that thinks its way through problems and an emotional limbic...
by Larae Quy | Jun 8, 2020 | Mental toughness, personal achievement, personal leadership, Positive Mindset, Psychology, self-awareness
I’m convinced of two things. First, we all desire to be more authentic in our lives. Second, we give up because this whole getting-to-know ourselves thing is damn hard work. It’s also the most important work we’ll ever do. Authenticity is the ability to share the...
by Larae Quy | Jun 2, 2020 | Anxiety, Mental toughness, personal achievement, personal leadership, Positive Mindset, Psychology, self-awareness
The media knows what sells—negativity. Newspapers, social media, and TV broadcasts can smell it in the air like a wild animal, nose upturned to pinpoint the threat. The coronavirus pandemic and other recent events have sharpened the media’s instincts to a whip-thin...
by Larae Quy | May 18, 2020 | Mental toughness, personal achievement, personal leadership, Positive Mindset, Psychology, self-awareness
Question: “What should I do with my life?” Answer: “Follow your passion.” Gag. “Follow your passion” advice is like putting a bandaid on cancer; it’s ineffective because it’s a trite response to a deep question. Like all bad advice, follow your passion rears its ugly...
by Larae Quy | May 4, 2020 | Mental toughness, personal achievement, personal leadership, Positive Mindset, self-awareness
I have always been intrigued by empathy because it helps people read the minds of others, something that came in handy as an FBI agent. When I listened to another person’s words and read their body language, I could piece together their thoughts and emotions. Empathy...
by Larae Quy | Apr 27, 2020 | Mental toughness, personal achievement, personal leadership, Positive Mindset, Psychology, self-awareness
Childhood can be a mixed bag. We can bitch and moan because ours was not perfect, but guess what? No one’s childhood is perfect. Even worse, it’s not supposed to be perfect. It’s the first place we discover how to overcome obstacles and move through adversity. It’s...
by Larae Quy | Apr 20, 2020 | Mental toughness, personal achievement, personal leadership, Positive Mindset, Psychology, self-awareness, Uncategorized
I will never forget the first day I ever shot a gun. I was on the firing line at the FBI Academy and holding a Smith & Wesson .38 revolver. My heart raced as I wiped the sweat from my palms. I was filled with uncertainty and fear, worried that I wouldn’t shoot...
by Larae Quy | Mar 30, 2020 | Mental toughness, personal achievement, personal leadership, Positive Mindset, Psychology, self-awareness
As a retired female FBI agent, I take umbrage at the assumption that professional women don’t have what it takes to move their career to the next level. The implications are that women need special assistance, or that standards of the position need to be lowered so...
by Larae Quy | Mar 17, 2020 | Mental toughness, personal achievement, personal leadership, Positive Mindset, Psychology, self-awareness
After 20 years of working counterintelligence cases, I was asked to become the spokesperson for the FBI in Northern California. My first reaction was “No”—I was very comfortable in my position as a case agent. By this time, I knew every step in the manual and had my...
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