LaRae Quy was an undercover and counterintelligence FBI agent for 24 years. She exposed foreign spies and recruited them to work for the U.S. Government. As an FBI agent, she developed the mental toughness to survive in environments of risk, uncertainty, and deception. Faced with stressful and fast-moving situations, she needed to move through barriers if she was to succeed.

Secrets of a Strong Mind Online Course
Based on real-life experiences and backed up with psychology and neuroscience, Secrets of a Strong Mind online course is 8 short modules of 5-minute videos.
It will help you to develop the mental resilience to overcome any challenge with confidence.

Are You Mentally Tough?
Mental toughness is believing you will prevail in your circumstances rather than believing your circumstances will change. It’s managing your emotions, thoughts, and behavior in ways that set you up for success in both business and life. Get your Mental Toughness Score – see where you excel and what areas need attention.

Secrets of a Strong Mind: How to Build Inner Strength to Overcome Life's Obstacles
A former FBI counter-espionage agent offers field-tested methods for readers to develop mental toughness. She provides a curated package of tools and techniques to help them realize they are capable of far more than they believe to be possible.

Mental Toughness for Women Leaders: 52 Tips To Recognize and Utilize Your Greatest Strengths
Fear of Pain
There’s always a way to turn shit into sugar—if you look for it. It won’t happen if you sit around and feel sorry for yourself. Everyone has different reasons to explain their negative reactions. Your job is to look deeper into your own life to help you build a strong mind. The answers lie within you so excavate the significance of your own stories and experiences.
Why You Need Mental Toughness
Grit Under Pressure
Grit is an intrinsic desire to go beyond what you can easily accomplish with talent or skill.
Grit Under Pressure
- A deep sense of purpose because you believe your work is worth it.
- Purpose boils down to understanding how you can give your talents and skills back to the world.
- Motivation to go beyond what you can easily achieve with talent.
- Success is often where people stop on their way to being who they truly want to be.
- Conditions don’t have to be perfect to start if you pursue something that answers your “why” and is important to you.
- Great lives respond to a higher calling and purpose.
- Purpose is the linchpin of grit.
The Right Mindset
Mental toughness is not something you’re born with, it’s a mindset you can develop.
The Right Mindset
- Attitude is the difference between a mentally tough champion and a whiny wimp.
- Negative emotions make us uncomfortable but without discomfort, there is no change and no growth.
- It’s not a lack of fear that creates a strong mind; it’s how we deal with negative fear-based emotions.
- The greatest mental toughness weapon we have is our ability to choose one thought over another.
- Mental toughness requires positive thinking. Positive people know they will prevail in their circumstances rather than hope their circumstances will change.
When Life Sucks
Mental toughness gives you the ability to be comfortable with discomfort while producing inner confidence.
When Life Sucks
- Stability is a shut-off valve for the brain. You only learn when there’s uncertainty.
- Petri dishes full of new experiences will help you anticipate what it feels like to fail so you can respond and not react when the stakes are higher.
- Left in darkness, fear will grow and sabotage your efforts to move forward.
- The only difference between a rut and a coffin is their dimensions.
- Wisdom is understanding that we’re not sure we have all the right answers.
- Success won’t make you confident; confidence will make you successful.
- Shit Happens. Life is hard. Pain is inevitable. Growth is optional.
LaRae’s Recent Posts

How You Can Be More Resilient When Things Get Hard
The things that come closest to killing us are the things that make us grow. Damn, why do life’s best lessons need to come wrapped up in adversity?

This Is Why You Need More Than Love
To hear the movies and books tell it, love is the answer to all our problems. Most of us learn early on that the movies and books have it all wrong.

How To Have The Courage To Move Into A Brave Place
We need to enable people to have the courage to move, not into “safe places” but into “brave spaces” where they enter into uncomfortable conversations

This Is How You Build Trust In Your Relationships
We need to learn how to trust but always keep our eyes open for red flags that may come up.
Effective FBI Tricks On How To Be Mentally Strong
Like everybody else, I watched TV and movies and I saw FBI agents beat people into submission and interrogate them to get the truth.

3 Easy Ways To Be Courageous And Take Risks
Courageous people can feel fear. The difference is that courageous people don’t let their fear paralyze them.

3 Secrets From Neuroscience On How To Be Mentally Strong
Our brains are hardwired to make us emotional creatures so no matter how tough and self-controlled we think we are, our first reaction will ALWAYS be emotional

4 Healthy Ways You Can Boost Your Self Esteem
Our inner critic worries about doing the wrong thing and feeling inferior, which can lead to lower self-esteem.

How To Outsmart Your Brain And Live A Better Life
Our reactions are automatic and unfiltered when we’re under pressure which is why we need to outsmart our brain so we can live a better life.

How To Make Your Life Better By Becoming More Self-Aware
Self-awareness expects you to pinpoint your emotions and spend time with all of them, not just the warm and fuzzy ones.
Are YOU Mentally Tough?
See how YOU Score
Mental toughness is believing you will prevail in your circumstances rather than believing your circumstances will change. Find your Mental Toughness score - see where you excel and what areas need attention.