LaRae Quy was an undercover and counterintelligence FBI agent for 24 years. She exposed foreign spies and recruited them to work for the U.S. Government. As an FBI agent, she developed the mental toughness to survive in environments of risk, uncertainty, and deception. Faced with stressful and fast-moving situations, she needed to move through barriers if she was to succeed.

Secrets of a Strong Mind Online Course
Based on real-life experiences and backed up with psychology and neuroscience, Secrets of a Strong Mind online course is 8 short modules of 5-minute videos.
It will help you to develop the mental resilience to overcome any challenge with confidence.

Are You Mentally Tough?
Mental toughness is believing you will prevail in your circumstances rather than believing your circumstances will change. It’s managing your emotions, thoughts, and behavior in ways that set you up for success in both business and life. Get your Mental Toughness Score – see where you excel and what areas need attention.

Secrets of a Strong Mind: How to Build Inner Strength to Overcome Life's Obstacles
A former FBI counter-espionage agent offers field-tested methods for readers to develop mental toughness. She provides a curated package of tools and techniques to help them realize they are capable of far more than they believe to be possible.

Mental Toughness for Women Leaders: 52 Tips To Recognize and Utilize Your Greatest Strengths
Values
Happiness is nothing more than a fleeting emotion. If you want to live a shallow life, then go ahead and pursue all the happiness you can possibly cram into one day. And then start over again tomorrow because the pursuit of that elusive value will keep you on the run for the rest of your life. Instead, seek the things in life that bring us joy and contentment. Don’t settle for anything less. Moments of happiness will automatically spring from those things that produce life satisfaction and fulfillment.
Why You Need Mental Toughness
Grit Under Pressure
Grit is an intrinsic desire to go beyond what you can easily accomplish with talent or skill.
Grit Under Pressure
- A deep sense of purpose because you believe your work is worth it.
- Purpose boils down to understanding how you can give your talents and skills back to the world.
- Motivation to go beyond what you can easily achieve with talent.
- Success is often where people stop on their way to being who they truly want to be.
- Conditions don’t have to be perfect to start if you pursue something that answers your “why” and is important to you.
- Great lives respond to a higher calling and purpose.
- Purpose is the linchpin of grit.
The Right Mindset
Mental toughness is not something you’re born with, it’s a mindset you can develop.
The Right Mindset
- Attitude is the difference between a mentally tough champion and a whiny wimp.
- Negative emotions make us uncomfortable but without discomfort, there is no change and no growth.
- It’s not a lack of fear that creates a strong mind; it’s how we deal with negative fear-based emotions.
- The greatest mental toughness weapon we have is our ability to choose one thought over another.
- Mental toughness requires positive thinking. Positive people know they will prevail in their circumstances rather than hope their circumstances will change.
When Life Sucks
Mental toughness gives you the ability to be comfortable with discomfort while producing inner confidence.
When Life Sucks
- Stability is a shut-off valve for the brain. You only learn when there’s uncertainty.
- Petri dishes full of new experiences will help you anticipate what it feels like to fail so you can respond and not react when the stakes are higher.
- Left in darkness, fear will grow and sabotage your efforts to move forward.
- The only difference between a rut and a coffin is their dimensions.
- Wisdom is understanding that we’re not sure we have all the right answers.
- Success won’t make you confident; confidence will make you successful.
- Shit Happens. Life is hard. Pain is inevitable. Growth is optional.
LaRae’s Recent Posts

How To Encourage Confidence and Control Ego
Confidence and ego are two very different things, and in the workplace these differences can make or break your career. Confidence is faith in yourself and your abilities. Ego operates out of self-interest and demands to be seen as “right” so it resists feedback and criticism.

5 Reliable Ways You Can Move Outside Your Comfort Zone
One of the dumbest things you can do in your career is stay, for years, in your comfort zone. Not only will you get bored, you’re likely to forget that no job is secure

How To Visualize Your Success In 3 Easy Ways
When we learn how to visualize success, it takes a hazy idea and turns it into a clear goal. It’s more than a quick fix—it’s solid science.

5 Reasons Successful People Need Grit
Life is hard. Pain is inevitable. Growth is optional. It takes grit to look at life as a series of problems to be solved.

5 Reasons Why Gratitude Will Make You A Better Person
The combination of gratitude and happiness is very powerful because it shapes the way you see the world and your role in it. There will be more clarity in the other choices you need to make, and that can give you the edge you need to pivot when faced with tough decisions.

4 Reasons Why Failure Can Lead To Spectacular Success
The thing that separates people who succeed from those who don’t is a proper understanding of what failure means. It can be a springboard for success.

6 Important Disadvantages That Can Make You Successful
I learned that I could struggle through my circumstances and survive; or, I could bust through them and use that momentum to become even more successful.

Why Being Likable Can Be A Remarkable Life Skill
Research has determined that likable people have the quality that predicts professional success: agreeableness.

6 Practical Reasons Why You Are Not A Strong Leader
As an entrepreneur or business owner, you need to think big and act courageous. You need the fierce determination that comes from being a strong leader.

5 Excellent Ways You Can Crush Negative Thoughts
Negative thoughts can slow down your business and personal goals. Successful entrepreneurs and business owners need ways to stop negative thinking.
Are YOU Mentally Tough?
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Mental toughness is believing you will prevail in your circumstances rather than believing your circumstances will change. Find your Mental Toughness score - see where you excel and what areas need attention.